I always found it useful to have the really heated argument in my head. The anger would dissipate, and if there was an issue that still needed resolution I could address it in a calm manner. Naturally, I’d win the argument.
Oddly enough, my wife does not find this to be an acceptable form of conflict resolution and has insisted that I take an approach that actually involves the person with whom I am angry.
I remember the first time I allowed myself to express my grievance (with her, it turns out). I was very prould of myself for doing so. Strangely, she was not as enthusiastic about my achievement of such a milestone.
I think she did congratulate me after we’d sorted things out. I think.